There isn't a simple formula for happiness. I keep hearing people say - when this will happen, then I'll be happy – they believe that their happiness is dependent on something or someone else. When they will be rich, successful, famous, married, or finally have the money to buy a house or an expansive car - only then they will be happy.
After listening to famous and rich people speaking about happiness in interviews and after reading researches – I can tell you it doesn't work this way. Happiness is a journey that begins and ends inside you. That means that you are sitting at the driver's seat, you have the control over what your destination will be. You can choose to work towards happiness as you can choose other destinations.
When Lady Gaga, one of the most successful and inspirational singers in the world, felt unhappy, she wondered "why am I unhappy?". Lady Gaga asked herself "why is it that you want to quit music?" and her answer was - "I feel sad when I'm overworked and I become a money-making machine and then my passion and my creativity take the backbite that’s make me unhappy".
Her way of dealing with this situation was to take control and reasonability. "So what did I do? I started saying NO. I'm not doing that, I don't wanna do that, I'm not taking that picture, I'm not going to that event, and slowly but surely I remembered who I am.. person that has balls, integrity, that person has an opinion" Gaga said.
"no matter how much successes you have, opportunities, fortune, no matter how many people except you to your face, the person that really needs to except you is you" Lady Gaga told Yale School of Management students.
In a world where 1 in 4 people experience mental health issues each year,
How can we help ourselves be happier?
Hobbies Make You Happier - according to researches people who engage in hobbies enjoy better moods, feel more interested, and have less stress and lower heart rates - even hours after the recreation time.
Hold yourself accountable - Research shows that much of happiness is under personal control.
Speak up and be yourself - Learning how to express yourself can help you overcome interpersonal challenges, which can make you unhappy.